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I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
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Three years ago I was told I had a disease in my lung, I was told two months later I was in both lungs and therefore inoperable. I’m still here. auntie_biotic http://www.tbandu.co.uk
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I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
Sure Anth! My wife was given 12 months on May 11, 2001. She is rallying at this time and seems to have stepped backwards about a month in her fight so I have no problem thinking it’s possible she’ll outlive their forecast by 100%!!! What you have been given is average survival time; some live longer, some shorter. A piece of personal advice from my wife and I: If you are doing something, chemo or whatever, that makes her life a living hell, STOP and find a different way to live. In other words, don’t do anything that ruins the time you have left. My wife quit the Oxaliplatin when it made her so sick. She recovered from the chemo and had 9 glorious months after that!!! Don’t let them ruin the time your Mam has left!!!! ((((((Anth))))))) CAT =(^-^)=
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Three years ago I was told I had a disease in my lung, I was told two months later I was in both lungs and therefore inoperable. I’m still here. auntie_biotic http://www.tbandu.co.uk
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Hi Cat It’s supposed to be a weak chemo without any noticeable side effects. 5FU or something. Anth – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Sure Anth! My wife was given 12 months on May 11, 2001. She is rallying at this time and seems to have stepped backwards about a month in her fight so I have no problem thinking it’s possible she’ll outlive their forecast by 100%!!! What you have been given is average survival time; some live longer, some shorter. A piece of personal advice from my wife and I: If you are doing something, chemo or whatever, that makes her life a living hell, STOP and find a different way to live. In other words, don’t do anything that ruins the time you have left. My wife quit the Oxaliplatin when it made her so sick. She recovered from the chemo and had 9 glorious months after that!!! Don’t let them ruin the time your Mam has left!!!! ((((((Anth))))))) CAT =(^-^)=
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It’s supposed to be a weak chemo without any noticeable side effects. 5FU or something.
Hello Anth, Would this be helpful? http://www.cancerbacup.org.uk/info/fluorouracil.htm Hugs J
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My mom was given at most 6 months in dec 2000. she’s still here, and doing quite well, with lots of meds. Kristin (daughter to Verna, dx Metastatic Breast Cancer, dec ‘00)
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I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
Anth, I posted this in the thread: saddend as time grows shorter, but wanted to let you know that one of my best friends had breast cancer w/mets to her liver (it was about a year in between). Last February (2002), she was told this news, and the prognosis was 3 months — very bleak. She hung in there, tho, and had a great caregiving team….and she lived seven months. Regards, Trish
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Late last March, my grandma was diagnosed with lung and bone cancer…. prognosis was 3- 5 months…. she slipped quietly into a coma tonight…. just a little over a year after her diagnosis with small cell lung cancer……
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anth, "guestimates" are just that and i know people who have lived much longer than what the doctors said and some who didn’t. my husband was given 3-6 months and and made it less than 6 weeks. i really think alot of it has to do with the type of cancer one has. love and prayers, jody
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Hi Cat It’s supposed to be a weak chemo without any noticeable side effects. 5FU or something. Anth
Assuming she is getting the injections in a constant drip, she should have minimal side effects. My wife did that with no problems worth mentioning and also took the pill form of 5FU called Xeloda. The Xeloda caused absolutely zero side effects, so try to get her that if possible. It is expensive but that is why you have government funded health care! CAT – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Sure Anth! My wife was given 12 months on May 11, 2001. She is rallying at this time and seems to have stepped backwards about a month in her fight so I have no problem thinking it’s possible she’ll outlive their forecast by 100%!!! What you have been given is average survival time; some live longer, some shorter. A piece of personal advice from my wife and I: If you are doing something, chemo or whatever, that makes her life a living hell, STOP and find a different way to live. In other words, don’t do anything that ruins the time you have left. My wife quit the Oxaliplatin when it made her so sick. She recovered from the chemo and had 9 glorious months after that!!! Don’t let them ruin the time your Mam has left!!!! ((((((Anth))))))) CAT =(^-^)=
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Jody what do you think it is ? Do you think it’s frame of mind? Anth
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – anth, "guestimates" are just that and i know people who have lived much longer than what the doctors said and some who didn’t. my husband was given 3-6 months and and made it less than 6 weeks. i really think alot of it has to do with the type of cancer one has. love and prayers, jody Jody what do you think it is ? Do you think it’s frame of mind? Anth
I’m a little wary of blaming or crediting length of life as one deals with illness to frame of mind. There’s a bit of the "blame the victim" in that approach, though most of the time that’s not the intention. We know so little about cancer, Anth, and even less about death. Focus on loving and caring for your mom, and if you can, let go of your need to find answers that don’t really exist. Michele ps- in another post you wrote that your mam has started to eat. That is good news
. One thing to be aware of is that many people get gas if they eat raw fruits and or veggies. It might be helpful to keep a food diary, so that you can track what your mam eats and how her gut reacts.
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I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
To break my self imposed silence to this group my girlfriend was diagnosed with NSCLC stage 3b on June 5 2002 and was given 6 months to a year to live depending if she opted for treatment or not. She sought aggressive treatment but on April 7th she was admitted into the hospital in very critical condition after she went into sepsis. With each day she has gotten better and with GOD’s help and the help of her critical care physician she may recover enough to return home again (again under hospice home care). We never believed in the numbers game as they never seem to have much relevence when applied to an individual. I do know that love, understanding, caring and a prayer now and then works wonders when all other treatments seemed to have failed. (Jack)ie
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Statistics are just numbers … nothing more and nothing less. Was diagnosed in July of 1999 with inoperable liver mets and given a year to live. A friend of mine completed the same treatment two years ago last month for a large grapefruit size … 15 cm … liver met and is doing good. Over two years without chemo. Thank you God !!! I used to get hung up on statistics and numbers, but not anymore. Have lots of hope. …. Do you know what hope is ? … It’s magic and it’s free… It’s not in a prescription … It’s not in an IV … … It puncuates out laughter … It sparkles in our tears ….. It simmers under sorrow … And dissipates our fears … … Do you know what hope is ? … It’s reaching past today … It’s dreaming of tomorrow … … It’s trying a new way ……. It’s pushing past impossible … It’s pounding on the door … It’s questioning the answers … It’s always seeking more ..It’s rumors of a breakthrough … It’s whispers of a cure .. A roller coaster ride … Of remedies unsure … Do you know what hope is ? .. It’s candy for the soul .. It’s perfume for the spirit … To share it 409 for The Importance of Hope Take care and God bless. Cliff . . " Don’t deny the diagnosis try to defy the verdict. " Norman Cousins . . . " ALL things are possible. Pass it on. "
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My wife has Met colon cancer 6-12 months. 3 years and she still here. My heart and my prayers to everyone – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
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Hi Joe What stage was it when they gave her 6-12 months and was it inoperable? Anth
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anth, i think that is a very debatable question that you ask. personally, i don’t think that frame of mind has anything to do with fighting cancer or any other serious illness. to me, it is kind of like mind and body aren’t in sinc (sp), if that makes any sense. you can take the most strong willed person with an aggressive, fast moving cancer and they can fight it with all that they have. as in surgery, chemo, alternative therapies, positive thinking, anything and everything that they have either heard of or someone has suggested to them and they can do it all. but the mind will continue to function even when the body has had enough and starts to shut down. does that make any sense? i know how hard it is on you having to watch what your mom is going through and the feelings that you have knowing that you can’t do anything for her. you have spent countless hours online trying desperately to find something, anything that could possibly help your mom, no matter how small. you have asked so many questions that there are virtually none left to ask and you still don’t have all the answers that you are looking for. and you may not ever find them. don’t beat yourself up with the guilt that you didn’t (or couldn’t) do anything for her. don’t let them do anything to her that will take away from the time you can have together (ie-anything that is going to make things worse for her). and if it comes down to it and they can’t do anything more for your mom, don’t let family members or friends try to make you feel guilty for doing your best to keep your mom comfortable. for your sake, try and spend quality time with your mom and make the most of it. cherish those good days that she has! and if you have something special that you want to tell her, tell her. make the most of it for both of you. i wish you the best, my friend. i know what you are going through and it is hard. i send you and your mom lots of prayers. love, jody
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says… I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth
I did, 8/2001 10% chance on surviving one year. Now, if the side effects of my emphesyma doesn’t kill me, longggggg (CEA back to 9, normal for a smoker, back from 142 in jan. 2 tumors gone, primary down to 1 cm. — I tried sniffing Coke once, but the ice cubes got stuck in my nose. Rian
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Wow, Rian, That is great. How have you been? Glad to see you posting again! Take care, Trish
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – says… I know this seems meaningless. Could each of you post a person who you know of that lived longer, less or the same as what they doctors predicated, so I can get some idea of the time scales involved? Thanks Anth I did, 8/2001 10% chance on surviving one year. Now, if the side effects of my emphesyma doesn’t kill me, longggggg (CEA back to 9, normal for a smoker, back from 142 in jan. 2 tumors gone, primary down to 1 cm. — I tried sniffing Coke once, but the ice cubes got stuck in my nose. Rian Wow, Rian, That is great. How have you been? Glad to see you posting again! Take care, Trish
still diarhea and anorexia, despite the 4 week Iressa vacation. Have to start again on monday. Am afraid to get renal blood in urin again. That hurts like hell(like a constant bladder infection). I am the one lucky person out of 10.000 that gets that side effect! Lost 25 pounds, and should not lose much more, am now only 7 pds over my ideal weight. But my stomach shrank so much that 100 cals is about my max, and the codein in my paracod supps for fybromyalgic pain makes me sleep so much that I cannot eat every hour, or even find the energy to make something. Am still battling with insurance about supplements, but the endorsment came back with Mr. on it, so the pharmacy wouldn’t deliver. Then I wanted other stuff besides Ensure (it tastes horrible) so they had to make out a new one and only sent me a copy and not to the pharmacy. It was requested at March 13, I hope to get 2 packs a day by April 13th!!! I have a great recipe for instant jewish penicillin for the starved: 1 jar of chickenstock(the kind with a piece of chicken in it and you have to dilute it twice). half pound of ready to cook soupveggies. Cook the veggies, do stock and veggies in foodprocessor, mince. Put in pan, add 3-4 oz of alphabet or angelhair noodles. cook 10 minutes. Very thick, low sodium, delicious, easy to eat. Put in mugs, freeze open. Take out of mugs, store in freezerplastic. Take out one , microwave, presto, 150 instant calories, even traces of protein and veggies. That is my breakfast (at around 10, I am not a breakfasteater(blah). at 2 I take a softboiled egg with a bun. I like to dip into the yolk! At night, when I am not too sleepy or still full, I like some poached fish. I need the supplements for good stuff. 500 empty cals is not enough, not even when you are a couchpotatoe and only 5 ft.! — I tried sniffing Coke once, but the ice cubes got stuck in my nose. Rian
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – still diarhea and anorexia, despite the 4 week Iressa vacation. Have to start again on monday. Am afraid to get renal blood in urin again. That hurts like hell(like a constant bladder infection). I am the one lucky person out of 10.000 that gets that side effect! Lost 25 pounds, and should not lose much more, am now only 7 pds over my ideal weight. But my stomach shrank so much that 100 cals is about my max, and the codein in my paracod supps for fybromyalgic pain makes me sleep so much that I cannot eat every hour, or even find the energy to make something. Am still battling with insurance about supplements, but the endorsment came back with Mr. on it, so the pharmacy wouldn’t deliver. Then I wanted other stuff besides Ensure (it tastes horrible) so they had to make out a new one and only sent me a copy and not to the pharmacy. It was requested at March 13, I hope to get 2 packs a day by April 13th!!! I have a great recipe for instant jewish penicillin for the starved: 1 jar of chickenstock(the kind with a piece of chicken in it and you have to dilute it twice). half pound of ready to cook soupveggies. Cook the veggies, do stock and veggies in foodprocessor, mince. Put in pan, add 3-4 oz of alphabet or angelhair noodles. cook 10 minutes. Very thick, low sodium, delicious, easy to eat. Put in mugs, freeze open. Take out of mugs, store in freezerplastic. Take out one , microwave, presto, 150 instant calories, even traces of protein and veggies. That is my breakfast (at around 10, I am not a breakfasteater(blah). at 2 I take a softboiled egg with a bun. I like to dip into the yolk! At night, when I am not too sleepy or still full, I like some poached fish. I need the supplements for good stuff. 500 empty cals is not enough, not even when you are a couchpotatoe and only 5 ft.!
Couch potato? Only 5 ft? You’re my hero, Rian. So sorry about the mixup and delay on the supplement thing. What kinds of supplements, please? Do they have Parental Nutrition where you are? (I’ve posted about that before, there’s two spellings) "Parenteral and Enteral Nutrition" "eat while you sleep"? How’s about real chicken, put some fat back on ya, eh? I cook up basmati rice, throw in some previously baked chicken or turkey, add some previously steamed (or frozen) veggies. Voila ! instant meal that can be easily rewarmed. You’re right, Ensure has got to be the worst-tasting stuff ever known to man (except maybe urine and CAT’s PHP) Can you not find a pain med without codeine? ( ( ( Rian ) ) ) J- going looking for stomach stretching exercises for Rian
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says… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Couch potato? Only 5 ft? You’re my hero, Rian. So sorry about the mixup and delay on the supplement thing. What kinds of supplements, please? Do they have Parental Nutrition where you are? (I’ve posted about that before, there’s two spellings) "Parenteral and Enteral Nutrition" "eat while you sleep"? How’s about real chicken, put some fat back on ya, eh? I cook up basmati rice, throw in some previously baked chicken or turkey, add some previously steamed (or frozen) veggies. Voila ! instant meal that can be easily rewarmed. You’re right, Ensure has got to be the worst-tasting stuff ever known to man (except maybe urine and CAT’s PHP) Can you not find a pain med without codeine? ( ( ( Rian ) ) ) J- going looking for stomach stretching exercises for Rian
Can you first get rid of the wrinkles on my thighs, butt, arms etc? even my fingers look like I have been bathing for 10 hoours!. (last weigh in 51.9 kilo. chewing stuff is tiring, just swallowing lets me eat more. And I would never have a hose up my nose for food, I gag when a bit of water hits the back of my throat. Tonight I will nuke a salmon filet (3 oz), boil 2 oz instant tagiatelli and warm up half a jar of green asparagus. I just drank a big glass of blueberryjuice (at $US 5 for 11 oz) and had a banana Nutrimo also makes optidrink(csrbo) and Fortimel(protein). Those are nice. and Ensure banana is Ok. http://www.nutricia.nl/medisch/asp/show_group.asp?id=5&prod=10025 Paracod supps are free, just paracetemol supps that you can get OTC you have to pay for yourself. Besides, it does not get rid of all the fribro pain. I take one, when I have a visitor or have to go out, to be alert. — I tried sniffing Coke once, but the ice cubes got stuck in my nose. Rian
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – says… J- going looking for stomach stretching exercises for Rian Can you first get rid of the wrinkles on my thighs, butt, arms etc?evenmy fingers look like I have been bathing for 10 hoours!. (last weigh in51.9 kilo. chewing stuff is tiring, just swallowing lets me eat more. And I would never have a hose up my nose for food, I gag when a bit of water hits the back of my throat. Tonight I will nuke a salmon filet (3 oz), boil 2 oz instant tagiatelli and warm up half a jar of green asparagus. I just drank a big glass of blueberryjuice (at $US 5 for 11 oz) and had a banana Nutrimo also makes optidrink(csrbo) and Fortimel(protein). Those are nice. and Ensure banana is Ok. http://www.nutricia.nl/medisch/asp/show_group.asp?id=5&prod=10025 Paracod supps are free, just paracetemol supps that you can get OTC you have to pay for yourself. Besides, it does not get rid of all the fribro pain. I take one, when I have a visitor or have to go out, to be alert.
Wrinkles maybe Rian, but sagging flesh needs a refill of nutrients. (or cosmetic surgery) Ok, so I don’t know how to convert – 114 pounds? (maybe) and I don’t speak your language but do recognize the words chocolate or vanilla in just about any language.
Rian, can someone not be there with you and wake you up to eat, just a little bit, every hour? Then walk you around a bit to get the digestive done and maybe walk off some of the fibro pain too? Is there a pain med that can counter the diarrhea? So you don’t lose nutrition that way? Is there not a spray for the back of the throat that can numb the gag reflex (lidocaine)? (this would only be until your handy-dandy nutrition comes through for you). I sure wish there was more I could do to help. I know, I’m probably a pest, but I do care and mean well. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow when your Iressa vacation ends. ( ( ( ( ( ( Rian ) ) ) ) ) ) J
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – says… J- going looking for stomach stretching exercises for Rian Can you first get rid of the wrinkles on my thighs, butt, arms etc?evenmy fingers look like I have been bathing for 10 hoours!. (last weigh in51.9 kilo. chewing stuff is tiring, just swallowing lets me eat more. And I would never have a hose up my nose for food, I gag when a bit of water hits the back of my throat. Tonight I will nuke a salmon filet (3 oz), boil 2 oz instant tagiatelli and warm up half a jar of green asparagus. I just drank a big glass of blueberryjuice (at $US 5 for 11 oz) and had a banana Nutrimo also makes optidrink(csrbo) and Fortimel(protein). Those are nice. and Ensure banana is Ok. http://www.nutricia.nl/medisch/asp/show_group.asp?id=5&prod=10025 Paracod supps are free, just paracetemol supps that you can get OTC you have to pay for yourself. Besides, it does not get rid of all the fribro pain. I take one, when I have a visitor or have to go out, to be alert. Wrinkles maybe Rian, but sagging flesh needs a refill of nutrients. (or cosmetic surgery) Ok, so I don’t know how to convert – 114 pounds? (maybe) and I don’t speak your language but do recognize the words chocolate or vanilla in just about any language.
Rian, can someone not be there with you and wake you up to eat, just a little bit, every hour? Then walk you around a bit to get the digestive done and maybe walk off some of the fibro pain too? Is there a pain med that can counter the diarrhea? So you don’t lose
nutrition that way? Wouldn’t Lortab or Vicodin (something with codeine in it) help to counter the diarrhea? They seem to have a constipating effect…..just a thought. Hugs to you, Rian! And to you, too, J! Trish – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Is there not a spray for the back of the throat that can numb the gag reflex (lidocaine)? (this would only be until your handy-dandy nutrition comes through for you). I sure wish there was more I could do to help. I know, I’m probably a pest, but I do care and mean well. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow when your Iressa vacation ends. ( ( ( ( ( ( Rian ) ) ) ) ) ) J
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