unoffical question of the day – August 29, 2007
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms? Chip great question, chip!! i know there are things buried deep within me that i am afraid of, but i can’t put my finger on them somehow. i often think these may be behind my anxiety condition. they may be fears about abandonment and rejection but i can’t tell for sure. maybe i need a few years of good old-fashioned freudian psychoanalysis to unearth them. ;o)
Huh, that’s interesting TJ. You’re making me think. Thanks, I "think". kili — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I watched a TV show this morning about 3 young women who had body dysmorphic disorder. They looked attractive and pretty to me, but each thought they had physical defects and "weren’t perfect enough". They felt so badly about their appearance that they tended to stay away from other people. One of them spent several hours per day staring into a mirror to observe her perceived imperfections. Another had 5 plastic surgeries even though she was still a teen. A common theme in all 3 women was perceived imperfections in their body, obsessing, worry, anxiety, and depression and sadness. And marked interference with their functioning. All they could focus on was their symptoms. Which got me to thinking about what was really going on in their minds underneath all those symptoms. Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms? Chip
I can only speak for me. I believe that such things as perfectionistic expectations came from living with someone who expected more of me than I could give.. perfect feelings toward her. (My mom).. she shunned any emotions I had that she would label "bad" – if I was angry with her, I would be shamed – so I kind of fell into the habit of disallowing my own true feelings and stuffing them. That’s my current theory anyway. I’m learning to search myself now and to at least uncover what lead me to this point of fear. Anxiety is fear – and fear is the flight in fight or flight.. and there must be a cause for wanting the flight. In digging through my own feelings, I’ve found that both my anxiety and other problems stem from other people sick as well..people I love, but people that were ill and hurt me. Sometimes underlying my fears is anger…and once I find anger I just forgive them..and lying under all that is the actual hurtful event. Funny you should ask this question as I was just delving into searching it within myself.. but I only speak for me, unsure of the universality of all of this. I think it may be a common denominator, most of us were abused in someway by someone, or had an anxious, frightened person we later modeled our own thinking after.. and the genetic components, I can’t speak to that. I wonder if anxiety is like depression in that doctors don’t know if depressive thoughts cause brain chemistry or vice versa or either causes the other.. Sally — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms?
I’m not sure there is a "real" issue. It’s not necessarily related to childhood. I have more problems than people I know who had worse. We just have overactive nervous systems. That was probably was what made some childhood stuff more difficult to take. Dennis — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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great question, chip!! i know there are things buried deep within me that i am afraid of, but i can’t put my finger on them somehow. i often think these may be behind my anxiety condition. they may be fears about abandonment and rejection but i can’t tell for sure. maybe i need a few years of good old-fashioned freudian psychoanalysis to unearth them. ;o)
I had several years of that sort of thing, and I don’t recommend it. Later I had a CBT therapist who said that it just made me do more obsessing – and that makes a lot of sense to me! Dennis — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I watched a TV show this morning about 3 young women who had body dysmorphic disorder. They looked attractive and pretty to me, but each thought they had physical defects and "weren’t perfect enough". They felt so badly about their appearance that they tended to stay away from other people. One of them spent several hours per day staring into a mirror to observe her perceived imperfections. Another had 5 plastic surgeries even though she was still a teen. A common theme in all 3 women was perceived imperfections in their body, obsessing, worry, anxiety, and depression and sadness. And marked interference with their functioning. All they could focus on was their symptoms. Which got me to thinking about what was really going on in their minds underneath all those symptoms. Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms?
I was shy as a little boy. (and I’m shy as a big boy, come to think of it). I was criticized alot by my father till he died at age 85. My ex-wife sensed my vulnerability and went for the jugular because she had her own problems. I helped her turn into a witch. All the criticism I received (much of it from myself) HURT REALLY BADLY, because I’m so sensitive. I was emotionally abused and didn’t even know it. Cause I figured I had it coming. I don’t take shit from anyone anymore. If I get it from someone, there will be payback. (yeah, I’m angrey) Angrey cause I put up with so much abuse and didn’t stand up for myself. And yeah, I can overdo the payback bit. I’m a perfectionist cause if you’re perfect no one can criticize you (in theory). And you can’t get hurt. Hurt like I was in the past. If you don’t do things perfectly, you could make a mistake, and some unexpected consequence could occur. If you don’t have enough self-confidence, you are afraid you may not be able to handle the situation. (just one more reason to be perfect ) Whether the words of someone else can hurt me depend on my own self-esteem. If I have good self esteem, I can say to myself "so what? I don’t care what you think. What I think is important". But when your self esteem is low, you *depend* alot on how others treat you. You make them your judges, instead of judging yourself. As far as genetics, hereditary components, hard-waring of the nervous they’re not the whole picture IMO. Just a part of a bigger picture that also has to do with how one is raised, how one is treated, the coping skills one is taught, what kind of emotional or physical trauma one undergoes, etc. The so-called biopsychosocial model of the mind. And there may be other factors unaware to mankind at this time. Alot of the stuff going on in the mind is subconscious, so it’s hard to know what is going on, unless we start looking for clues. Unless we start speculating as to what might be going on. Or if you are undergoing cognitive or behavior theory, some of the underlying problems can bubble to the surface and become apparant as a result of the *actions* you take, or as a result of lookng at the way you think, and changing the way you think. What are some of the themes in anxiety disorders? Hereditary factors. Dependence on others. Feeling inadequate. Low self esteem. Attempts at perfectionism. Prior or current stress. Prior psychological or physical trauma. Prior criticism. Overconcern with what others think. Oversensitivity. Fear of one’s own emotions. Lack of touch with one’s own emotions. I don’t know what it all boils down to. When you have a panic attack all you can think of is getting off the freeway, how long will the attack last, whether you’ll have a heart attack, and whether you’ll lose your mind and stay in a state of panic. You don’t think about, say, getting out of the trap your life has become, how to become more mature and independant, and how to free yourself of all your hangups. You don’t think "I’m safe because I’m Chip…..and Chip can take care of himself" Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I watched a TV show this morning about 3 young women who had body dysmorphic disorder. They looked attractive and pretty to me, but each thought they had physical defects and "weren’t perfect enough". They felt so badly about their appearance that they tended to stay away from other people. One of them spent several hours per day staring into a mirror to observe her perceived imperfections. Another had 5 plastic surgeries even though she was still a teen. A common theme in all 3 women was perceived imperfections in their body, obsessing, worry, anxiety, and depression and sadness. And marked interference with their functioning. All they could focus on was their symptoms. Which got me to thinking about what was really going on in their minds underneath all those symptoms. Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms? From what I’ve read and my own opinion of course. I think distorted body
image is a pshychological disorder similar to anorexia distortions except the symptoms and outcome are not the same. Where the focus is on looks, I think its a profound distortion, an exagerration and obsession of having to look perfect which would lead to loss of self esteem and self image because they don’t think they are perfect enough and no matter what they do to look better it is never good enough. I think it could leave to physical illness eventually if its not treated successfully. Its like those women you see on TV who constantly have plastic surgery even when it becomes dangerous to their health. I also think it involves a self hatred due to something that happened to them or whatever. They need a psychiatrist who is skilled in that kind of disorder and seems to be hard to treat. When someone is constantly worried how they look, and has so much self criticism, much anxiety and depression and sadness would surely follow and definitely interfere a great deal with their functioning in life. How could it not? I used to know a girl who was pretty and very nice but she criticized her looks noticeably often. I was always amazed when she said this. She went to another job and a couple of years later, I heard she died of breast cancer. She was only around 45. Mary — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms? Chip
great question, chip!! i know there are things buried deep within me that i am afraid of, but i can’t put my finger on them somehow. i often think these may be behind my anxiety condition. they may be fears about abandonment and rejection but i can’t tell for sure. maybe i need a few years of good old-fashioned freudian psychoanalysis to unearth them. ;o) — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm
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I watched a TV show this morning about 3 young women who had body dysmorphic disorder. They looked attractive and pretty to me, but each thought they had physical defects and "weren’t perfect enough". They felt so badly about their appearance that they tended to stay away from other people. One of them spent several hours per day staring into a mirror to observe her perceived imperfections. Another had 5 plastic surgeries even though she was still a teen. A common theme in all 3 women was perceived imperfections in their body, obsessing, worry, anxiety, and depression and sadness. And marked interference with their functioning. All they could focus on was their symptoms. Which got me to thinking about what was really going on in their minds underneath all those symptoms. Likewise, I got to thinking about what is really going on under all the symptoms of those with anxiety disorders. What do you think the real issues are in people with anxiety disorders? What is really going on in us, hidden under all our symptoms? Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm